In my last post, I mentioned how much I appreciated how candidly Dan Rather spoke about his own hearing loss at a book lecture. A few weeks ago, I attended another book lecture, this time the guest speaker was Anna Quindlen.
Anna Quindlen has a way of speaking that can make anyone in the room feel like she just stopped by to chat over a cup of coffee. She is refreshingly honest, down to earth and funny. In person and on paper she comes across as someone who is acutely aware of the human condition. Then there was the moment she mentioned that when she was younger she stuttered.
Writers have a wonderful opportunity to inform and enlighten others through their words. But it doesn’t stop there. All people who are famous are in a unique position to show others that persons with disabilities can be found in every walk of life. This is important because it reminds the younger members of society that sometimes barriers can be broken.
Here is a sampling of some well-known individuals with disabilities past and present who have been successful:
Thomas Edison, Bill Clinton, Stephen Colbert, Jane Lynch, Jodie Foster, Ludwig Van Beethoven, Leslie Nielson, William Shatner, Eric Clapton, Andrew Foster, Lou Ferrigno, Helen Keller and Nanette Fabray
Winston Churchill, King George VI, James Earl Jones, Marilyn Monroe, John Stossel, Tim Gunn, Joe Biden, Bruce Willis, Samuel L. Jackson, Mike Rowe, Jack Welch, Bill Walton
ADD and ADHD:
Justin Timberlake, Jamie Oliver, Will Smith, James Carville, Michael Phelps, Paris Hilton, Jim Carrey, Ty Pennigton, Sir Richard Branson, Terry Bradshaw and Pete Rose
Ray Charles, Andrea Bocelli, Stevie Wonder, Helen Keller, Louis Braille, John Milton, Jose’ Feliciano and Homer
Prince, Elton John, Danny Glover, Alexander the Great, Theodore Roosevelt, Harriet Tubman, Truman Capote, Lewis Carroll, Edgar Allan Poe, Julius, Caesar, George Gershwin, Vincent van Gogh, Socrates , Charles Dickens and Michelangelo
We also know of the impact people like Stephen Hawking and Christopher Reeve have left on society.
The message here is that when there is an open discussion about famous persons and their disability, it reminds society that persons with disabilities have the potential to be major contributors in our society given the chance. If you look at some of the talent listed here, the world has been enriched with music, art, science, literature and profound insights.
I am a late-deafened baby boomer, but I am a bilateral cochlear implant recipient, so I can function pretty well while wearing my devices. Due to my less-than-perfect hearing, I arrive at these events well in advance to ensure good seating. On this particular evening, I was able to get a second-row seat in the center of the event area. Eager and ready, I pulled out a small microphone that serves as an assistive device to supplement my cochlear devices. Needless to say, staying connected to our world is a priority those of us who suffer from profound hearing loss need to keep up with.
As the program began, the crowds clapped and you were seated. It took a few small adjustments to make sure the store’s microphone for the event was working optimally. I sat in my seat feeling somewhat conspicuous pointing my personal microphone in your direction. As you looked straight ahead, I did my best to hear the program and get the full benefit from assistive technology. But wait. Did I spot at least one hearing aid when you turned your head? Perhaps then, you would understand why I was pointing this tiny device in your direction. I was trying to get the full benefit of your words.
Right before the questions from the audience began, you stated you had a confession to make. You informed the audience that your hearing is not what it used to be, preparing them for the possibility of not hearing a question or even answering it inappropriately through no fault of your own. Then you went on to tell the audience about Walter Cronkite who suffered from hearing loss in his lifetime. You added a humorous story that so many of us whose hearing is not what it used to be can relate to.
But it didn’t end there. A young man in the audience with a small child opened a discussion about race. He said that he looked around the room and there were few people in the audience that looked like people “where he comes from.” It was so important that the young child with him could witness your insightful response. It was also important to me that this young child heard you speak openly about your own hearing loss, sometimes with the humor we all need to keep things in perspective.
Finally, often on social media I see young people with hearing loss or culturally Deaf individuals ask what kind of job someone with hearing loss can do. You validated the point that persons with hearing loss can be whatever they want to be just by being present and speaking candidly. Hearing loss is a disability, and unfortunately issues concerning persons with disabilities is an often forgotten part of discussions about diversity.
Getting back to that small child, through your words, the next generation was reminded that although change often comes slowly, an open discussion gives a voice to those of us who have felt on the outskirts of society for whatever reason. Mr. Rather, that is something that unites us, and I thank you.
As the year comes to a close, we often become introspective about life and the year ahead. As I grow older, one truth is for sure. Time is the most important gift we can give others or ourselves. Time well spent on wellness, friendship, family, being productive and sometimes just being still with nature, — it’s all good.
One thing experiencing deafness has taught me is that there is a value to sitting still in the quiet and coming to terms with problems both large and small. Sometimes we need to pause before we can move on to the next dimension in our lives. It is in those moments that we find solutions.
In this hurried world, it is hard to believe stopping to refresh our thoughts is a productive state. But it is sometimes necessary especially as we grow older.
Babies are born. We see people we love struggle with illness and pain. People die. We must always keep the torch burning and share some light with others, especially in their time of need.
How do we measure time? We are all here for just a brief nanosecond. More and more, I want every second to count. I don’t think most of us realize early on how quickly life passes or that life can change in a second.
Sometimes life happens in the simplest of moments.
I for one love to go out in the woods to just listen to the language of the tiny animals, watch diffused sunlight move through the trees, smell the autumn air or feel the crunch of snow under my feet. Somehow, that’s where everything comes into focus. Just me, the forest and the tiny critters.
The ocean seems to be the place most people will go for solitude or reinvention. I’ve always felt that may be because it may take us back to the safety of our first journey in amniotic fluid before taking our first breath. When my hearing loss accelerated and I no longer could hear the waves crashing, I felt like the Earth had lost its rhythm or heartbeat. I felt disconnected for a long time until I could hear those sounds again.
We are far more connected to nature than we realize. Just a day off from the office and into the woods will remind us that there is so much more going on in this world than the frenzied pace we are used to. We are only part of the equation.
I remember a few years ago, one of the professors I worked with decided to retire. When everyone asked him what he wanted to do in retirement his answer was simple. He wanted to spend more time sitting under his favorite tree. That’s all. But he didn’t get to do that very much when he was working.
Whenever the year comes to a close, like many people, I ask myself where am I going? How can I be a better person? What matters? But this year I am challenging myself to the question, “How will I spend my time in the coming year?”
Maybe it’s good to live our lives like every day is our only day. We spend so much time on trivia. Here’s to the coming year and time well spent.
Do certain sounds of the season evoke fond memories from another time? Perhaps they signal the beginning of the holiday season?
When I was growing up, if my mother pulled out her 33 RPM record with Nat King Cole singing The Christmas Song, I knew Santa was soon to be on his way. Hearing the clink of ribbon candy hitting the bottom of her Depression-era glass candy dishes meant she had finally completed the last measure of preparation and decorating. Later on, we would hear the sound of the tension springs on the oven door as she pulled delectable goodies from the oven.
Here are some sounds of the season that are special to me, past and present:
Hearing the organist at Radio City Music Hall play holiday tunes
The sound of heavy, crunchy snow under my boots
Hearing someone feverishly ripping off wrapping paper and hearing in their voice how happy you made them for picking out something special
Playing Feliz Navidad by Jose Feliciano over and over because it’s a feel-good tune
Ditto for Brenda Lee’s Rocking Around The Christmas Tree
Hearing the Salvation Army ring their bell and knowing there are still good people who take the time to care about the downtrodden
Hearing my grandson sing Jingle Bells with his Pre-K class with enthusiasm– children are the ray of hope for the world
Taking the time to go see The Nutcracker, and enjoying the music
Bumping into someone dear while shopping, and having a special catch-up chat
Staying up until midnight on December 31 to hear 10-9-8-7-6-5-4-3-2-1…Happy New Year! and watching people all over the world celebrate new beginnings
The clink of two glasses toasting and celebrating all that was and all that we hope for in the coming year
What are some of your favorite sounds of the season? I’d love to hear from you!
May you have reasons to enjoy the season. Here’s wishing you hope, peace, joy and many reasons to feel gratitude.
I remember back in 1989 when I received my first closed captioning machine. My family and I sat in front of the television waiting for the machine to shoot out words by newscasters, TV sitcoms or documentaries. The machines were slow and sometimes they produced garbled or incorrect stories that made no sense. But I was grateful to have the opportunity to watch television again. Of course since 1990 all TVs 13″ or larger are required to include a closed-caption option and this soon made the devices obsolete. In the decade that preceded my closed-captioning experience I watched little television. Many shows were not captioned, and I had difficulty following the words even with assistive devices.
I also had trouble hearing on the telephone, so that created struggles both in the workplace and with staying connected with friends and family. Few people understood about the relay and TTYS. Today, there are several companies that offer captioning for both landline and cell phones. Smartphones have helped to keep Deaf and hard-of-hearing people connected. Some doctors now allow notifications by text or email.
Forget music. I just couldn’t make it out before I received my cochlear implants. It was like I was living in a silent movie.
When I think back to times when my children were growing up, with every year that my hearing loss accelerated, I was inclined to tune out more and more. That was not fair to my family and counterproductive to effectively communicating.
I did my best to “pretend” I was a person who could hear well in the workplace. Some of my work experience includes being an executive assistant who took dictation over the phone from anywhere in the country, event planning that required I function and communicate well at social events in well-known NY City hotels, being the world’s worst real estate agent, working in the time-sensitive corporate world and finally being a college professor with over 30 students in each classroom. By the time I came home from work I was exhausted. There is tremendous energy required for a person with hearing loss to function in a hearing world. At the end of the day, as ironic as it sounds, many people just want to go into a silent world. But that’s no excuse!
One of the hardest things in my opinion is socialization with hearing loss. Hearing loss is often misunderstood, and people don’t know how to react. Some shout at us, others over-annunciate their words. Some say “Never mind” when we don’t hear what is said. Frankly, there are some who find it too much work to communicate with us, but let that be their problem. There are plenty of good people in the world, and we must pick ourselves up and keep moving forward.
We now know that isolating ourselves can cause depression, cognition issues and affect our interpersonal relationships. It does get hard, but hearing loss is a sink-or-swim issue. Stay connected or you will likely suffer repercussions in every area of your life.
After reflecting on all this I have concluded that I am guilty of what so many of us are guilty of. Without realizing it, we resort to a world of solitary confinement. If we truly want to stay connected with our interpersonal connections, in the workplace and with friends, we must reach out, take chances, and be a self advocate. Are you self-imposing a life of solitary confinement because it is easier?
Today, there are so many solutions to improve the quality of life of persons who struggle with hearing loss. In a future blog, I will talk about some of those products and solutions. In the meantime, stay connected and keep listening to all the sounds of life.
It seems every week there is a new report linking hearing loss to a host of diseases and conditions. Why did it take us so long to realize whatever happens to one part of the body often affects other areas?
Homeostasis– The tendency toward a relatively stable equilibrium between interdependent elements, especially as maintained by physiological processes (www.dictionary.com)
For starters, most of us who have worn hearing aids have foot the bill out of our own pockets for decades. It seems the insurance industry did not make the connection between hearing loss and how it can affect overall health. That is unfortunate. Expensive for us, and perhaps in the end expensive for them if you count the number of people who have not treated hearing loss over the years because it was cost-prohibitive if the connection to disease is correct. Everything we do, every emotion, every small action contributes to our homeostasis.
There are studies going as far back as the 1960s that have studied hearing loss and coronary heart disease. Samuel Rosen and Pekka Olin working out of The Mount Sinai Hospital and New York Eye and Ear Infirmary published an article entitled Hearing Loss and Coronary Heart Disease. They studied members of the Mabaan tribe in southeast Sudan and compared them to Americans in industrial areas of the United States. Diet and stress in America were compared to the simple life and diet of the Mabaan tribe and their quiet surroundings.
In 2014 Dr. Frank Lin, M.D. Ph.D published an article Hearing Loss Linked to Accelerated Brain Tissue Loss. In this article, Dr. Lin discussed the link between dementia and “fast-track” brain shrinkage in older adults.
According to the American Diabetes Association (www.diabetes.org), hearing loss is twice as common in people with diabetes as it is in those who don’t have the disease. With 86 million adults in the U.S. who have pre-diabetes, the rate of hearing loss is 30 percent higher than those with normal blood glucose. Still, the connection remains unknown.
In a WEBMD article penned by Kathleen Doheny, hearing loss is associated with depression in American adults, especially women and in both sexes younger than age 70.
If that isn’t enough, some statin drug studies have implied a possible connection between hearing loss and using the drugs. Some diuretics such as hydrochlorothiazide are suspected of increasing the chances of diabetes as well as one beta blocker drug. So the new question would be, is there also a prescription drug connection to inducing these conditions and/or hearing loss? Either way, these drugs are often life-saving solutions to an immediate and bigger danger.
So what can we do to be proactive?
It seems the same healthy diet for heart disease, diabetes and other conditions is prescribed for overall health. What role does sugar, salt, unhealthy fats play in hearing loss and other conditions? There are many books out there that discuss these conditions and optimum health. Some of my favorite ones are by Dr. Andrew Weil (drweil.com), Dr. Mark Hyman (drhyman.com), Dr. Dean Ornish (www.deanornish.com), Dr. David Perlmutter (drperlmutter.com) and Dr. William Davis (wheatbellyblog.com). Mark Bittman (markbittman.com) has written some good cookbooks with healthy recipes.
Get a complete physical.
Exercise not only keeps the arteries healthy, it helps to move glucose into the right places and out of your body. In addition, it has been shown to improve mood and lessen depression.
Meditate. Find a quiet place after a busy day. This may seem odd to say as choosing amplification over silence is theoretically one of the best ways to keep an active and healthy brain. But at the end of the day, amplification can be tiring as anyone with either hearing aids or cochlear implants will tell you. Controlling stress is equally important.
Stay connected. We are so lucky to be living at a time when there are captioned phones, captioned TVs, amplifying and flashing devices, captioned Broadway shows and movies, amplifying devices in museums and state-of-the art accessories for both hearing aid and cochlear implant users.
Take a chance. Try something new. Be an active participant in your own story. Keep a journal. Read good books that inspire you to be your best you.
Get a dog. Some preliminary studies have shown having a dog can affect blood pressure positively, improve mood and overall well being. You might want to look into getting a service dog with Canine Companions for Independence (www.cci.org) or Dogs for the Deaf (www.dogsforthedeaf.org).
Don’t get discouraged. People with hearing loss have the same needs as those who don’t, — family connections and positive interpersonal relationships, good friends, good times, respect in the workplace and last but not least, a good belly laugh. Find a reason to laugh every single day.
The best way we can use this information connecting these conditions to hearing loss is to consider it a heads up and do everything we can to prevent or control these conditions and be positive.
It was a busy time for me at my job. During the day, I was a full-time employee at our local College, and by night I was teaching three undergraduate courses to adult learners. In between, I was a contracted employee helping out with student advisement.
I’ve always been reluctant to take time off during a busy period, but I was coughing, losing my voice and wished I could just crawl into bed with a box of tissues. Being a stickler for attendance, I have gone as long as two years without taking a sick day. In retrospect, I’m not sure that was always a good thing.
But I rationalized that it would be just a few more days until I would go on vacation with my daughters, Valerie and Melissa. It was Valerie’s 30th birthday, and we planned a trip to Puerto Rico. I imagined myself sitting under a palm tree, with bright sunshine and perhaps a pina colada with a tiny umbrella in hand. I was certain the warm sunshine and a little rest would remedy this bad cold I couldn’t seem to shake.
Upon landing, I noticed I felt a little heady. It was a feeling similar to being underwater. My first thought was that it was a temporary result of the cabin pressure.
My right ear has always been my good ear, even though otosclerosis has permeated both of my ears. My left ear received a stapedectomy years ago, and it temporarily gave me back some of my hearing. Otosclerosis is an abnormal growth of the middle ear bones which causes them to become fixated and reduces the transmission of sound. Because of the otosclerosis, I have a mixed loss in both ears. Despite all of this, with hearing aids my loss was diagnosed as moderate to severe until 2005.
Shortly after we arrived in our beautiful hotel room in San Juan overlooking plush greenery and a pool with sapphire water, I noticed the red light in the hotel room phone was flashing. I placed the phone to my right ear to listen to messages. I thought it was odd that there was no dial tone, but I assumed my hearing aid battery just died. After changing the battery, still no dial tone. The message was beginning to register, but I was still in shock. I placed the receiver up to my left ear, which I never used for phone conversations, and I heard a faint dial tone. I sat there for a minute in disbelief.
My family members have always been my greatest advocates, and although they did everything they could to try to help me communicate, I was grouchy, touchy, depressed and yes scared. It rained every day while we were there, and it seemed fitting.
Upon returning to New York, I visited an ENT doctor who went the usual route in giving me Prednisone with the hope that the loss was temporary. But he did warn me that it was probably permanent because with this drug you must act fast.
I visited my local audiologist and she tested my hearing over a period of weeks. I remember feeling a strong vibration that was painful when she was testing my residual hearing. But no sound. I did see a look of horror on her face and saw her look at me and exclaim, “Mary!” She then came around to where I was seated and hugged me. I was now profoundly deaf in that ear. A hearing aid only provided hissing that only interfered with my ability to hear on the other side.
So this would be my new normal. I had difficulty following in meetings at work. Trying to continue with heavy phone use was a real stressor. I had trouble functioning in a classroom of 30 students. I resented I could not participate in social activities with friends. At family dinners I focused on eating because I could not hear what was going on. Food became a form of instant gratification and I found myself retreating more and more. I found a comfort zone in isolation. Realizing this, well that was my wake-up call.
After anger, denial and a lot of other emotions, I went into the City and visited a few doctors asking for their opinion on how to go forward. That’s when I started searching for peer-reviewed research articles on otosclerosis and cochlear implantation, and I learned many others had been successfully implanted. When I met Dr. J. Thomas Roland, I knew he would be the one to operate on me for my implant. He had operated on others with this condition, and I liked how he explained to me how Cochlear Americas had different arrays for difficult situations, and all options would be ready and available in the operating room. Despite all this, my surgery was uncomplicated and a standard array was used.
One day, after being activated, I took a walk down by the water in my hometown, New Rochelle, NY. Glen Island Park is a pretty shore area with a drawbridge, gazebos, a sandy beach, grassy slopes, hills, tiny sailboats and larger ones passing through when the guard lifts the gate. One of the rites of summer was to hear the ding, ding ding warning for the bridge to rise, and to see the guard wave to those crossing under the bridge. I have many coming-of-age warm memories of Glen Island, — the smell of Coppertone tanning lotion, transistor radios playing doo wop, cute boys with winning smiles and lifeguards in dark sunglasses.
So, there I was just walking across the drawbridge with my 3G, the first behind-the-ear (BTE) processor Cochlear Americas marketed. I stopped midway. I was in awe. I heard the waves rippling for the first time in years! I heard ducks quacking as the waves rippled below. There I was, hanging my arms over the bridge, my face looking down as tears streamed from my eyes. These were the sounds I missed so much from summers past. I felt like someone just gave me oxygen and I was breathing for the first time in a very long time.
Then I became aware of a car slowly crossing the bridge, looking towards me. Perhaps he saw how emotional I got and thought I was going to jump? Then I felt myself laugh at the irony of it all and continued to exit the bridge.
Since then, I have lost the hearing in my left ear and opted to go bilateral. Two ears are better than one because they help to localize sound. So much has changed since I received that 3G processor years ago. With new accessories I can once again watch TV, go to the movies, listen to music and participate in a conversation with my grandson. While these may seem like simple pleasures, it’s been a long time and I’m feeling very grateful to be experiencing life again in living color.
Views expressed here are my own. Consult your hearing health provider to determine if you are a candidate for Cochlear technology. Outcomes and results may vary.